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Asexuality versus celibacyAsexuality means not having sexual attraction aka we don't see anybody in a sexual way. Not to be confused with aromantic, which is not having romantic crushes on anybody. The two may or may not go hand in hand. Asexuals may still date. Asexuals may still have sex. We just don't see sex with others the same way that the average person does. We don't have natural urges towards others but we may engage in sex for various reasons, including to satisfy a nonsexual partner, to have kids, etc. We may still call ourselves as straight, gay, bi, etc and this is because of the possibility of how our romantic orientation might be. Some may consider themselves LGBT+ and some may not. Either way is valid.
Celibacy on the other hand means refusing to having relationships and sex despite orientation. Celibates may still be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, etc but don't act upon these urges for one reason or another. This could be due to a religious reason, emotional trauma, or any other reason. As
The importance of kindness during hostilityAs an ace it is infuriating seeing stuff like "oh you don't exist", "so you're what a plant?" "Aww how cute! You'll grow out of it someday". But it's important not to snap at these comments or make snide remarks. Because if we snap out with hints of rudeness in our comments, the other party will feel like the victim then complain to others how aces are mean people who don't deserve respect. I will admit that fighting back with an equally offensive retort is first nature. It's best however to stop, take a deep breath, then explain calmly and with respect your stance, why asexuality is real, that we aren't some naive children, etc. That way, the offender can remain the offender and we won't have any guilt behind us. We'll appear more credible to outside parties who may read these comments and the offender will be seen as the immature one. To the other party who are genuinely curious about it, if any aces want to lash out I highly recommend not doing this. The other party is simply curiou
(Any LGBT+ welcome) Share your coming out stories!Share your coming out stories!
My biggest experience coming out was with my boyfriend back in like October last year. I figured I owed him truth on why I wasn't as interested in *that* as he is. It happened during a break in the relationship so if he didn't accept me as his date then it wouldn't be like anything would change. On Monday evening I had wanted to tell him in person but I couldn't manage to bring myself to do it. So I decided to kik message him the next day while he was in class. I sent him the message "I think I'm asexual". At first he didn't get it so I had to explain a few times and even sent him a link to Swankivy's overview video from YouTube. He kinda got it. We've been back as a couple since this January but I still don't think he fully gets what it means to be asexual. He still tries to get me into... stuff... but I'm not as timid about it as I was before. I still don't get the fuss about it but I'm able to tolerate it to an extent.
That coming out story was... inte
Equal LoveDifferent is my love
Your ideals upon me you shove
But I'm not broken
My love has simply awoken
Love that is different yet strong
Right middle finger, slightly bent
A black ring I present
It is a sign
And I pine
For my brethren, aces of all kind
Let me tell you something
Have pride in yourself
You may be ashamed
But love how you want
Late bloomer you're not
You are a diamond, bright, sparkling
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